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In People and Society • 2 min read • Dec 22, 2022 16:33p.m.
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Growing up, Uche didn’t really have much to flex in front of his friends. His parents were not necessarily living in poverty, but they were obviously not rich. At least he was able to complete his education with support from his extended family and other well-wishers. He never got to enjoy the privileges his friends had. Uche never got a cake for his birthday. He grew up earlier than his contemporaries and had to work to earn a living. It was always him and his struggling family against the world. Now he is in his early thirties, and he still can’t recover from his childhood. I believe very strongly that a lot of people grow up to become amplified versions of who they were as children. We subconsciously live out what we saw growing up. Well, this is not the case for everyone. It is common to hear conversations about the importance of saying "no," but I feel there is a need to talk about saying yes. This is particularly true in cases where people are offering to help you. Some people have never experienced love or had someone do something for them, so they withdraw and refuse help. To put it another way, they say no when they actually need to say yes because of their experiences. I understand that in a certain context, every gift is a payment for a transaction yet to happen, and people may help you with ill motives. That is basically manipulation. If you're like Uche or you know someone who is like Uche, I want you to know that it's okay to say "yes" to an offer of help. We all deserve love! If you’ve had a nasty experience where someone who helped you asked for something in return (whether sex or something material), I urge you to free yourself from the chains of anger as it takes us to odd places. Forgive them, although you may not forget. I know it would be difficult, but it's worth it. So yeah, say yes with sense! Not everyone you meet wants to hurt you. In the end, we are all rocks on sinking sand. Give love, accept love! Heal forward Learn Unlearn Relearn

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