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Nerd Killer
Student @ Adekunle ajasin university
Ondo, Nigeria
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When You’re Always the Grown-Up in Love
<p style="text-align: justify; "><strong>Some people carry the emotional weight of the relationship on their backs.</strong></p><p style="text-align: justify; "><strong>They do the apologizing, the calming, the fixing.</strong></p><p style="text-align: justify; "><strong>They understand both their own emotions and their partner’s.</strong></p><p style="text-align: justify; "><strong>They hold space—but no one ever holds it for them.</strong></p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">If this sounds like you, you’re probably the emotionally mature one in your relationship. And while that’s a gift, it can also feel like a burden. Especially when your partner doesn’t meet you halfway.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You communicate instead of explode.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You set boundaries with love, not punishment.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You try to solve problems, not avoid them.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">But sometimes… you wonder: Who’s taking care of me?</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Here’s the problem:</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">When emotional maturity becomes one-sided, the relationship becomes imbalanced. You’re not a partner—you’re a parent, a therapist, a crisis manager. And that’s exhausting.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You’re expected to “understand,” even when your needs are ignored.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You’re seen as “strong,” so no one checks in on your softness.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">You’re praised for being “calm,” but sometimes you're just numb.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">The solution?</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Being emotionally mature doesn’t mean tolerating emotional immaturity forever.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">It means recognizing when you’re not being emotionally nourished.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">It’s okay to ask your partner to grow. To learn. To step up.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Emotional maturity isn’t about carrying the load alone—it’s about teaching each other how to carry it together.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">And if they refuse to grow?</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">That’s not your failure—it’s your cue to choose peace over potential.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Here’s your strength today:</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Being the mature one doesn’t mean staying silent.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">It means speaking truth with grace and knowing when love becomes labor.</p><p style="text-align: justify; ">It means choosing relationships where your maturity is matched—not just needed.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; ">Because being strong shouldn’t mean being lonely.</p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; "><br></p>
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