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Fa Ye
Student @ University of Abuja
The Silent Weight Men Carry
<p>From a young age, boys are often taught to "man up," suppressing emotions like sadness, fear, or vulnerability. Sometimes I look at men, fathers, brothers, friends, strangers and I see a kind of quiet heaviness they carry. It’s not always obvious, but it’s there, tucked behind tired eyes and tired smiles. </p><p>And the world doesn’t really give them space to name it. I’m a feminist, yes, but that doesn’t mean I can’t see what men are up against too. We talk so much about what women carry and we should but I also wonder: where do men go when it’s too heavy for them?</p><p></p><p>They don’t get to crash out. They don’t get to be weak. They don’t get to be sad. Not without judgment, not without it being seen as failure. The world gives them strength as their only acceptable language. They're expected to hold it together for their families, for their partners, for themselves even when they're falling apart.</p><p>And when the weight gets too heavy, they often carry it in silence, because vulnerability is a luxury they were never taught to afford. Behind their composed faces are men who are tired, overwhelmed, scared but have nowhere to put it. So they swallow it, smile through it, and keep going. Because that’s what’s expected.</p><p></p><p>So no, nobody has it easy neither men nor women. We just suffer differently, in ways the world has normalized or learned to overlook. Where women are told to shrink, men are told to harden. And both instructions hurt.</p><p></p><p>It’s not a competition. It’s not about who has it worse. It’s about seeing each other fully and acknowledging that pain wears many faces, and all of them deserve space to be understood. </p>
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