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In Literature, Writing and Blogging • 2 min read • Dec 19, 2022 15:29p.m.
THE GIFT AND BURDEN OF MEMORY

How much do our memories hold us back? Weird question.. I know. Memories are a gift. Through them we get to re-live the good times. They allow us call back the lovely details of a nice family trip, that vacation with a special person, or pleasant childhood experiences. Memories can be soothing. They can be a form of anti depressant, or an escape from anxiety and worry. Memories, can also be a form of restriction. Regrets, embarrassment and pain, could be a part of our memory. And sometimes, in order to avoid them; we hold back from doing something we really want to do. We know that the memory of failure lives with us and often haunts us, and it is just a few of us who can really subdue it. This knowledge, often leads to fear. The fear of having that failure ingrained in our memories. A man or woman may hold back from making their deep feeling for someone else known, due to the fear of rejection. But it's actually not the rejection that they fear. What they are really scared of, contrary to what they think; is the memory from that rejection. They're scared that when they lay in bed at night, the memory would torment them. And in a bid to avoid this, they hold back from expressing what they truly feel. Living with unpleasant memories, can be difficult for a lot of people. Shaking off that lingering recollections of failure isn't as easy as motivational pages make it seem. We remember rejections, hopelessness and failure. But imagine you had the ability to permanently discard any memory you choose, with a snap of your fingers. What happens then, is that you become emboldened. You know that you do not have to live with the torment of things not working out. You apply for that position, you make your feelings known to that lady. And if they do not go as you wish, you simply discard that memory. But unfortunately, we cannot delete memories in such manner. We live with it. If we are not held back by the burden of memory, we'd truly be free to do whatever we want.

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