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Propaganda I'm Not Falling For: Sex After the First Date
<p>Welcome to a new series where I'm sharing my unfiltered thoughts on the "propaganda" I just don't buy into—ideas and expectations society often pushes, but that simply don't resonate with me. And to kick things off, let's talk about the pervasive notion that sex after the first date is some kind of modern dating prerequisite or a casual norm everyone should adopt.</p><p><br/></p><p>It feels like there's this underlying message, particularly in media and certain social circles, that if you're out on a first date and things are going well, the natural progression *should* be to end up in bed. Or, if not, that you're somehow being prudish, old-fashioned, or not "seizing the moment." This isn't just about sexual liberation; it feels like an unspoken pressure, almost a test of modern open-mindedness.</p><p><br/></p><p>But here's the thing: I'm just not buying it. For me, intimacy—true intimacy, both emotional and physical—is something that needs a foundation. It needs trust, a sense of genuine connection, and a comfort level that simply cannot be built over a single dinner or a few hours of conversation, no matter how good the chemistry. Rushing into physical intimacy can often bypass the deeper getting-to-know-you phase, potentially blurring lines or creating expectations that aren't truly aligned with what both parties want in the long run.</p><p><br/></p><p>I believe in building something real, and for me, that means taking the time to understand someone's mind, their heart, and their character before moving to such a vulnerable and significant step. The "propaganda" of immediate physical gratification after a first date often overlooks the value of emotional pacing, respect, and the sheer joy of anticipation. It's a narrative I consciously choose to opt out of, preferring to let connections develop naturally, on their own timeline, rather than conforming to an arbitrary social script.</p>
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