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Morph: Norming to Performing
<p>It is said that there are 5 (some say 4) stages of Team Development, two of which are the 'Norming' and 'Performing' stages. I'm going to be applying this important team management draft in this relationship piece.</p><p>At the Norming stage, the individuals are expected to start functioning as a team towards the intended goal(s). At this point, common features are Acceptance and Trust. This is highlighted for the fact that they've just overcome the 'Storming' phase, where the individuals are adjusting to working with one another. Egos fly and sometimes get bruised, uncertainties surface and are dealt with, but we get to forge ahead if we just stay committed to the overall.</p><p>Back to Norming, I'm singling this stage out (and Performing) because it's in itself a key indicator of the health of a team. I mean, a team ought to get to this point after a while. After a while, we ought to understand ourselves. Understand our tone, motions and gestures. Understand the intentions behind what's said and not.</p><p>And that's the thing, even with romantic relationships, it would (should) morph. So rather than panic, enjoy the ride. The challenges, hurts and brunt are all part of the package. You'd overcome if you stay focused on what brought you together.</p><p>And this would lead to 'Performing', where things are figured out. You both now know how to love and work it out inspite of the differences that exist. Sometimes, you even make adjustments to make the other happy, and for the betterment of the relationship. The ship is in full throttle and we're cruising.&nbsp;</p><p>This is the best part of the ride, so we all hope it's the part that we experience the longest. It's designed to be that way anyways. So, if it takes too long to get to this point, something needs to be checked; say, if it still takes a while to forgive and understand one another.&nbsp;</p><p>Cos, there's really a point you get to where you wave things off and excuse them rather than take offense. You understand that's how he or she could be at certain times or in a certain mood, even though you don't like it.</p><p>So, I do hope that after you've read this piece you let me know what stage your relationship is at. Love is designed to be a beautiful thing indeed, only if we can decide to grow together (Morph) 🥰.</p>
Morph: Norming to Performing
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