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In People and Society • 2 min read • Sep 23, 2022 15:43p.m.
LET'S TALK ABOUT FAKE FRIENDS

Quite often, we see post from contacts on our social media, about fake friends. Friends who do not reciprocate the energy or affection given to them. Some of us do not vent on social media, but we rather have it on our minds. And I am not going to lie, I once was guilty of this. However I got thinking, are these fake friends guilty of not reciprocating energy, or is it that they do not give as much as we want? The truth is some people are more expressive with their emotions than others. So if Mr A is more expressive than his friend, Mr B, does that make Mr B a fake friend. I would like to share an experience with a friend. Sometime, while I was ill; this friend made it a duty to call multiple times each day, to check up on me. A gesture I very much appreciated. Weeks later, she fell ill. I did same - called to check up on her, but not multiple times each day (morning and evening). However, she was offended by the fact that I did not call as much as she did. And I was branded with the fake friend tag. The experience got me thinking - maybe I wasn't being a good friend. But then again, I expressed concern about the state of her health. Just not as much as she'd have expected. Sometimes I still ask myself if I did a wrong thing. Sometimes, the people we brand as fake, are doing the much they can. But our expectations, blind us to see that. A lot of people have cut ties with valuable people in their lives because of expectations. I believe friendship should be measured by the impact a person has on another's life. And not based on some baseless record of reciprocity.

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