BEYOUND THE BLAME 🤍 - by Muhammad Mercurial

A: You know what makes me angry. It is not that you mess up. It is that you never admit it.B: That is not true. I admit things when I am wrong.A: No you admit things when you are cornered. That is different.B: Why are you always so aggressive with me. You talk like you are perfect.A: I am not perfect. That is the point. I say my flaws out loud. You hide yours behind excuses.B: You think you are brave because you say you are flawed. You still hurt people.A: Yes I do. And when I do I own it. I apologize. I change my behavior. You deny it ever happened.B: Because half the time you exaggerate.A: I do not exaggerate when you interrupt me. I do not exaggerate when you gaslight me. I do not exaggerate when you shift the blame.B: There you go again using words like that.A: Because they are accurate words. You dismiss them because they make you uncomfortable.B: You make everything sound like an attack.A: No. You feel attacked because you refuse to look inward.B: You do not know how hard my life has been.A: I do. You tell me every time something goes wrong. You tell me your childhood. Your parents. Your trauma. Your stress.B: Those things matter.A: They explain you. They do not excuse you.B: Easy for you to say. You were not there.A: True. But I am here now. And I am the one dealing with the fallout of your behavior.B: So now I am the villain.A: No. You are a human who refuses accountability.B: That hurts to hear.A: Growth usually does.B: You talk like you enjoy this.A: I do not enjoy it. I am exhausted by it.B: Then why stay.A: Because I still believe you can do better.B: You say that but you sound so angry.A: I am angry. Anger does not cancel care.B: When you look at me like that I feel small.A: That is not my intention. I want you to feel responsible. Not ashamed.B: I do feel ashamed.A: Shame says I am bad. Responsibility says I did something bad and I can fix it.B: I do not know how to fix myself.A: Start by stopping the blame.B: You make it sound simple.A: Simple does not mean easy.B: Every time something goes wrong my instinct is to defend myself.A: I know. I see it every time.B: It feels like survival.A: It felt like survival once. Now it is a habit.B: Habits keep people safe.A: Habits can also poison relationships.B: You think I am toxic.A: I think you have toxic patterns.B: That sounds nicer but it still hurts.A: It should hurt just enough to wake you up. Not enough to break you.B: I am scared that if I look too closely I will hate myself.A: That fear keeps you stuck. Self awareness does not create self hatred. It creates self respect.B: I do not respect myself much.A: I know.B: That was blunt.A: Honesty usually is.B: I thought confidence was pretending everything was fine.A: Confidence is knowing what is wrong and choosing to work on it anyway.B: When you say things like that I feel exposed.A: You are exposed. To me. Not to the world.B: Why does that feel scarier.A: Because you cannot hide here.B: I am tired of hiding.A: Then stop.B: I do not know who I am without defenses.A: Someone learning. Someone imperfect. Someone real.B: What if I fail.A: You will.B: That is not comforting.A: You will also try again. That is the part that matters.B: I hate that you are right.A: I am not trying to win. I am trying to connect.B: Your delivery needs work.A: Fair. I am working on that too.B: So you are not above this.A: Never said I was.B: Then why does it feel like you are judging me.A: Because I am holding you to a standard I believe you can reach.B: That feels like pressure.A: Pressure and belief often look the same.B: I wish you would say it softer.A: I can try. But I need you to listen even when it is uncomfortable.B: I am listening now.A: Then hear this. I do not think you are broken. I think you are afraid of responsibility because no one taught you how to handle it safely.B: That makes me want to cry.A: Crying is allowed.B: I was taught that admitting fault meant punishment.A: That explains a lot.B: So when you confront me my body reacts before my mind does.A: Thank you for saying that. That is self awareness.B: It does not feel strong.A: It is strong. Strength is not loud. It is honest.B: I want to be that kind of strong.A: You already are starting.B: By doing what.A: By staying in this conversation instead of deflecting.B: I almost walked away earlier.A: I noticed.B: I stayed because I do not want to be this person anymore.A: That is maturity.B: Even if I mess up again.A: Especially then.B: Will you call me out again.A: Yes. With less fire if you meet me halfway.B: I can try.A: Trying is enough for now.B: You really believe people can change.A: I would not be here if I did not.B: I feel lighter hearing that.A: That is what accountability does when it is paired with compassion.B: I thought accountability was just punishment.A: No. It is ownership plus choice.B: I choose to work on myself.A: Say it again.B: I choose to work on myself.A: That sounded real.B: It is scary but real.A: Come here.B: Are you still mad.A: Less mad. More hopeful.B: I like that version of you.A: I like this version of you tooB: Even with my flaws.A: Especially because you see them.B: Thank you for not giving up on me.A: Thank you for not running away.B: Can we take this slow.A: Yes. Growth is not a race.B: Then stay with me while I learn.A: I am here.B: That means more than you know.A: We will mess up. We will talk. We will repair.B: That sounds healthy.A: It is.B: I want that.A: Then we build it. Together.

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