A BLEND OF 3: People pleaser, low self esteem and a strong empathy

She is a blend of three:A people pleaser,low self-esteem,and strong empathy.These three cloak her instantly,built into the way she sees the worldthrough a different lens.Hyper-aware of the people around her, especially emotionally,she senses feelings in a person’s tone,their body, their speech, their movements, and voice.The slightest disappointment—she absorbs.The slightest fulfillment—she feels.The slightest disapproval is her undoing.So when she senses others’ moods, needs, and expectations,she places them above her,like a trophy she cleans to shine.She tries to solve their feelingsjust to receive that shiny approvaland enjoy the absence of disappointment.She senses both the good and bad in people.Her environment shaped her into these threea weapon against her,and sometimes a blessing when it saves her.When she smiles and undermines her feelingsto avoid hurting another,when she says yesto what she would have said no toif not for themShe wants to be pleasing,to hear, “Yes, she is a great person.”She fears absence,fears not being felt.She prefers the positivity she brings to othersbecause it makes her feel good.She believes keeping others happyis safer than risking disapproval.These three have brought her pain,but she doesn’t stop.It’s like a drug—hard to swallow,but something she feels she needs.When “no” weighs on her lips,guilt sets in,and so she says yes.Because deep down,as that “no” lingers,loneliness and resentment creep in.She knows many are her friends,but few truly see her.So why risk losing another?She knows she gives too much,but she doesn’t know how to stop.Few recognize what she does.A deep craving to be seen,chosen,understood,and valued without having to earn itengulfs herso she continues.She is built on these three.Empathy could have been her strength,but mixed with low self-esteemand people-pleasing,it turns her into someonewho gives too muchwith no gratitudeand no love for herself.She says she can’t live without them.But has she ever stopped to askif they can live without her?She should ask herself:When was the last timeshe did something for herselfwithout guilt?She says she can’t live without thembut is it becauseshe built her life like a wallaround them?She knows the answers,but won’t face thembecause they scare her.The thought of caring for herselfterrifies her.She is tirednot physical tiredness,but every kind of tired.The kind that comes from always adjusting,always giving,always second-guessing.Her empathy could have been a strength,but now all three traits trap herin a cycle she struggles to escape.But nothis is not where she ends.<img src="/media/inline_insight_image/collage_compressed.jpg"/>

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